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board, 1 Pet. iii. 7. 1 Cor. vii. 10. This is such a necessary duty, that an obstinate refusal in either party to dwell together diffolves the marriage, 1 Cor. vii. 15. that is wilful desertion. And if a man remove to another place for a long time, and upon no bafe cause, his wife is obliged to go with him, if he defire, unless there be fome imminent danger either of her body or soul; and he is obliged to take her if she desire: For though it belongs to the husband as the head to determine the place of their habitation, yet he cannot fhake off his duty to his wife, i Cor. vii. 5. Gen. xii. II.
3. Living together in peace, i Cor. vii. is. We must follow peace with all men ; but there are double ties on married persons to follow peace with one another, and to watch that it be not broken. No war is so unnatural as that which is betwixt them; and none so hopeless if they make it not up betwixt themselves. Did we see a man tearing his own fleshy, or a woman beating her head against the wall, we would conclude they were mad. Yet thus it is in effect where there is no peace betwixt husband and wife. The ancient Pagan Greeks, when they cut up the wedding-facrifice, took the gall, and with eager loathing flung it behind the altar, to shew that in wedlock all bitterness must be put far away. There is none fo hopeless, if they take it not up between themselves : for there is none to judge betwixt them but God : therefore if they cannot clear, they should bury their controversies, yielding for peace fake. And though certainly it is most natural that the woman should first yield, yet he is a foolish man that will not sacrifice of his own right to peace, and yield though to the weaker vefsel, as Moses did to Zipporah, Exod. iv. 25. 26. Certainly whofo firft yields, shews most respect to God, and stands faireft for the blefling, Matth. Vi g. Blefjed are the peace-makers.
4. Carefulness to please one another. The wife' ought to füit herself to the will of her husband, so
far as lawfully she may, 1 Cor. vii. 34. watching against what is displeasing, and doing in things lawful what she knows is pleasing, Gen. xxvii.. 9. Yea and the husband must be careful to please her too, ver. 33. It is a piece of that conjugal tenderness he owes her, not to do any thing that he knows may juftly displease her, and even to humour her in things lawful and fit, for her greater comfort; for though he is the head, yet she is his own flesh. This would keep peace.
5. Living together not only in peace, but in love, delighting in one another's company, Eccl. ix. 9. living chearfully and familiarly together. A careless, morose, and unconversible humour is opposite to the end of the state of marriage, which is the mutual comfort of the parties.
6. Honouring one another. The woman ought to honour her husband, walking under a conscientious respect to that superiority God has granted him over her, i.Cor. xi. 7. So that she may not trample upon his character as a husband. Yea and she must labour to walk fo with others, as she may bring no difhonour to him by her indiscreet carriage, but be a glory to him by her meek and quiet conversation, 1 Pet. iii. 4. So as he is her head, she becomes a crown to that liead. A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, Prov. xi. 4. The husband must also honour his wife, 1 Pet. iii. 7. both in his words and actions, shewing his esteem of her virtues, praising her when she does well
, Prov. xxxi. 28. reposing trust and confidence in her as to the management of his affairs, and not keeping up the knowledge of his business from her, but communicating counsels with her, Prov. xxxi. 11. This he must do when the is worthy; otherwise that must take place, Micah vii. 5. Keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bofom. In a word, he ought to carry fo respectfully to her, as to thew that he looks on her as his companion, and may gain respect to her from the rest of the family, Gen. xvi. 6. and this be
cause she is the weaker veffel, both naturally and morally, in which respect she is more easily crushed and broken in her spirit, especially by the auftere and undutiful carriage of her husband.
7. Sympathizing with one another in all their croffes, and griefs, and joys, whether of body or mind. "Being one flesh, they must fhew it this way. It is a common duty we owe to all, to weep with them that weep, and rejoice with them that rejoice ; and so both their griefs and joys should be mutual, in a fpecial manner; otherwise they will be as jarring strings in an instrument that mars the harmony, i Sam. i. 8. And they must bear with one another's infirmities, covering them with the mantle of love, Gal. vi. 2.
8. Faithfulness in respect of their bodies, communicating themselves one to another according to the ends of marriage, with modesty and foberness, marriage putting the body of each in the other's power; and therefore the apostle in this case forbids them to defraud one another, i Cor. vii. 5. Another piece of that faithfulness is keeping by one another, and not embracing a stranger, which is that horrible breach that diffolves the bond of marriage.
9. Lastly, A due concern for one another's soul and eternal welfare, i Pet. iii. 7.' They must be helpful to one another in the way of the Lord, doing what they can to advance one another's eternal intereft; watching over one another, joining together in holy duiies
; inftructing and admonishing one another lovingly and meekly, each one proposing to themselves the falvation of their relative, as well as their own, i Cor. vii. 16.
This is a weighty point, which few lay to heart, c. [To be continued in the third volume.]
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